Thursday, January 10, 2008
It is important for me to reiterate that abusers are often not abusive early on in a relationship. In fact they are probably the most "charming", "sensitive", "smart" and "outgoing" people you could ever encounter - this is because they have to "sale" themselves. Most abusers have a long history of abuse (I found this out). Often they see their relationships as the problem NOT themselves -so they go from person to person. Most of the time they have dysfunctional relationships with people that cover up for their abusive past or they seem to have a lot people who just don't plain like them. The abuser will try to paint themselves as someone with bad luck - but is that really the case? I URGE EVERY SISTAH WHO JUST HAS THAT "FUNNY" FEELING ABOUT A NEW GUY TO CHECK HIM OUT- SEE WHAT PEOPLE HAVE TO SAY...A PERSON'S ACTIONS SPEAK WAY LOUDER THAN WORDS. Click Here for good information on abusers and their behaviors.
Can an abusive person heal themselves? Not overnight. Abusers need to work hard to heal themselves and THEY must do the work and want to be healed. Like alcoholics they have to first admit that they have a serious problem and then they have to commit to not being with another person until they have sought help and worked on themselves. Unfortunately this rarely happens because many can't face the horrible acts they have committed.
EVERY SISTAH DESERVES TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT. Love does not compromise respect. Sex is NOT love. Gifts can't buy you safety. Professional well educated men CAN be abusers. Sistahs we are told constantly by the media that we are destined to be single, that we don't have enough men in our community. Is that true?? Lack is not only about money - lack consciousness can also have you make choices to be with an abusive man. STOP READING MAGAZINES, LISTENING TO SONGS, WATCHING TV SHOWS THAT PROMOTE "LACK OF GOOD MEN (AND WOMEN) SYNDROME". It creates a message for your consciousness that says "settle for the this..." and what you settle for may have you black and blue.
When we really believe we are DIVINE CHILDREN OF THE CREATOR there is no shortage of good men. When we believe in ourselves and our DIVINE INHERITANCE then our perfect mate is within our reach and will show up in divine perfect time. I have come to understand that we must first be that thing that we want in a perfect mate. If we want someone who is on purpose -we need to be on purpose. If we want someone who is successful and all that - we must be successful and ALL THAT!!
Use the principles of prosperity in every aspect of your life -the world is abundant, overflowing with beautiful, loving, smart, spiritual brothas who are GREAT MEN with integrity.
DAY 33 (write it down, meditate on it for 15min, journal your thoughts)
33. I am conscious of the Inner Presence as my lavish Abundance. I am conscious of the constant activity of this Mind of infinite Prosperity. Therefore, my consciousness is filled with the Light of Truth.
Posted by Camara Meri Rajabari at 7:14 AM