Thursday, March 4, 2010


artist, Kristie Stephenson
artist, Kristie Stephenson

It is day 5 and we have an idea who has gathered at this LOVE FEST CIRCLE...It is a Beautiful Circle and a PoWerFul Circle...

In my mind's eye I see us all in our wisdom. As we sit around a bright fire following the dance of the flames, an Elder leads us in prayer - the prayer calls in the Creator, then it calls in Our Venerated Ancestors, then Our Venerated Spirit Guides, the element of the earth, the element of water, the element of fire, the element of wind, the Animal Spirits are also called in...The Elder offers gratitude for this moment and ask that our time together be guided by the SpiritWorld...We affirm the gift of this prayer with Ashe'!, Amen!, Awombyn!, And So It Is!

We each bring out our offerings - some bring feathers, some bring seed, some bring crystals, some bring holy water, some bring herbs, some bring incense - the offerings are abundant...We affirm the prosperity of the Circle by saying Ashe'!, Amen!, Awombyn!, And So It Is!

A Circle member begins to sing, the song is about the heart. The tones of the song come from deep within her body shakes the total being of others in the Circle -someone shouts,"Sing It!!!". Another person gets up and dances with no shame - soon others join...The songs ends with clapping, laughing, hugs and we affirm the upliftment of the moment by saying Ashe'!, Amen!, Awombyn!, And So It Is!

Sitting again in silence we notice the flames dance begins to slow and the Griot begins to speak. This is the story that is told about LOVE:

The Skeleton Woman, an Eskimo legend:

Once upon a time --- She had done something of which her father disapproved, although no one any longer remembered what it was. But her father had dragged her to the cliffs and threw her over and into the sea. There, the fish ate her flesh away and plucked out her eyes. As she lay under the sea, her skeleton turned over and over in the currents.

One day a fisherman came fishing, well in truth, many came to this bay once. But this fisherman had drifted far from his home place,and did not know that the local fisherman stayed away, saying this inlet was haunted. The fisherman's hook drifted down through the water and caught, of all places, in the bones of Skeleton Woman's rib cage. The fisherman thought, "Oh, now I've really got a big one! Now I really have one!" In his mind, he was thinking of how many people this great fish would feed, how long it would last, how long he might be free from the chore of hunting.

And as he struggled with this great weight on the end of the hook, the sea was stirred to a thrashing froth, and his kayak bucked and shook, for she who was beneath struggled to disentangle herself. And the more she struggled, the more she tangled in the line. No matter what she did, she was inexorably dragged upward, tugged up by the bones of her own ribs. The hunter had turned to scoop up his net, so he did not see her bald head rise above the waves, he did not see the little coral creatures glinting in the orbs of her skull, he did not see the crustaceans on her old ivory teeth. When he turned back with his net, her entire body, such as it was, had come to the surface and was hanging from the tip of his kayak by her long front teeth. "Agh!" cried the man, and his heart fell into his knees, his eyes hid in terror on the back of his head, and his ears blazed bright red.

"Agh!" he screamed, and knocked her off the prow with his oar and began paddling like a demon toward the shoreline. And not realizing she was tangled in his line, he was frightened all the more for she appeared to stand upon her toes while chasing him all the way to to shore. No matter which way he zigged his kayak, she stayed right behind, and her breath rolled over the water in clouds of steam, and her arms flailed out as though to snatch him down into the depths. "Aggggggghhhh!" he wailed as he ran aground.

In one leap he was out of his kayak, clutching his fishing stick and running, and the coral-white corpse of Skeleton Woman, still snagged in the fishing line, bumpety-bumped behind right after him. Over the rocks he ran,and she followed. Over the frozen tundra he ran and she kept right up. Over the meat laid out to dry he ran, cracking it to pieces as his mukluks bore down. Throughout it all she kept right up, in fact grabbed some of the frozen fish as she was dragged behind. This she began to eat, for she had not eaten in a long, long time.

Finally, the man reached his snow house and dove right into the tunnel, and on hands and knees scrambled his way into the interior. Panting and sobbing he lay there in the dark, his heart, a drum, a mighty drum. Safe at last, oh so safe, yes safe, thank the Gods, Raven, yes thank Raven, yes and all-bountiful Sedna, safe ... at ... last.

Imagine when he lit his whale oil lamp, there she/it lay in a tumble upon his snow floor, one heel over her shoulder, one knee inside her rib cage, one foot over her elbow. He could not say later what it was, perhaps the firelight softened her features, or the fact that he was a lonely man. But a feeling of some kindness came into his breathing, and slowly he reached out his grimy hands and using words softly like mother to child, he began to untangle her from the fishing line. "Oh, na, na, na." First he untangled the toes, then the ankles. "Oh,na, na, na."

On and on he worked into the night, until dressing her in furs to keep her warm, Skelton Woman's bones were all in the proper order that a human's bones should be. He felt into his leather cuffs for his flint, and used some of his hair to light a little more fire. He gazed at her from time to time as he oiled the precious wood of his fishing stick and rewound the gut line. And she in the furs uttered not a word- she did not dare-lest this hunter take her out and throw her down to the rocks and break her bones to pieces completely.

The man became drowsy, slid under his sleeping skins, and soon was dreaming. And sometimes as humans sleep, you know, a tear escapes from the dreamer's eye; we never know what sort of dream causes this, but we know it is either a dream of sadness or longing. And this is what happened to the man.

The Skeleton Woman saw the tear glisten in the firelight, and she became suddenly soooo thirsty. She tinkled and clanked and crawled over to the sleeping man and put her mouth to his tear. The single tear was like a river and she drank and drank and drank until her many-years-long thirst was satisfied. While lying beside him, she reached inside the sleeping man and took out his heart, the mighty drum. She sat and banged on both sides of it: *Bom, Bomm! ... Bom, Bomm!* As she drummed, she began to sing out "Flesh, flesh, flesh! Flesh,flesh, flesh!" And the more she sang, the more her body filled out with flesh. She sang for hair and good eyes and nice hands. She sang the divide between her legs, and breasts long enough to wrap for warmth, and all the things a woman needs.

And when she was all done, she also sang the sleeping man's clothes off and crept into his bed with him, skin against skin. She returned the great drum, his heart, to his body, and that is how they awakened, wrapped one around the other, tangled from their night, in another way now, a good and lasting way. The people who cannot remember how she came to her first ill-fortune say she and the fisherman went away and were consistently well-fed by the creatures she had known in her life under the water.

The people say that it is true and that is all they know.

(The story is from 'Women Who Run With the Wolves', by Clarissa Estes)

The Griot's tale ends and we are left to ponder the lessons of the story...

Peace and Light,
Sis. Camara


Shelly said...

This is a powerful story. My initial reading of this leads me to believe that people/things/situations are more complex than at first glance. And the person/thing/situation you have been longing for may appear right in front of your face if you surrender to the true desires of your heart.

These are just my initial thoughts....ASE! AMEN! AWOMBYN! AND SO IT IS!!!!

Soraya said...

what a beautiful story. i agree with shelly and would like to add that ideas around resistance/patience/love and acceptance came up for me. when we resistance is not longer an option and futile...what are we left with. sometimes we are afraid of change but it is inevitable. we need to be patient with what is scary and unfamiliar and practice love and kindness..and finally accept what is or what we can't change.


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i am of earth and water
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Sistah C said...

@ Shelly and Soraya,
I first heard this story in a healing workshop - told by the facilitator. I think was strikes me is that the first act no one remembers "the why" but it was a betrayal. It is hard for us to sit with betrayal as part of the love journey. The second piece I notice is that she is in her lone-ness - just sitting at the bottom of the sea then the fisherman comes along and she fights to stay in the sea. Taken above water -freed from her prison of loneliness she eats having not tasted food in a long time - I think of this is a spark of feeling alive again. The fisherman has to also realize his own loneliness and begin to see past her appearance. He nurtures her and brings her back to life by stepping into his feminine role as mother -singing, dressing her...He even feeds her with his own tears and the power of his heart brings back her body.
This story speaks so much to me about a healing of the heart - cooperatively...
Thank you for your insights...
Sis. Camara

Shelly said...

Sis Camara I see your point. It is difficult (but necessary) to acknowledge betrayal as part of the love journey. It is such a big part of my love journey...others have betrayed me and in some respects I have betrayed my Self by accepting people/situations into my life that were damaging to my Spirit.

I also appreciate you pointing out cooperative heart healing...that's exaactly what we're doing here! Let the healing continue!!!!!!!

Soraya said...

sorry for the typos- i was getting ready to step out when i started writing and got distracted. lol. to edit my own statement..when we resist it can become futile and more difficult for our process but still valuable.

yes- we share in so much. a wonderful story!